October 29, 2011

Early Marriage. WHY?

بِسْمِ اللَّـهِ الرَّحْمَـٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Salam and Happy Sunday!

WARNING : This post is intentionally for anyone who supports or wants to get married at young age especially IIUM students.Yes. Early Marriage.

Take note : Most of the IIUM students don't come from Islamic background. For them, coupling before married is a natural thing and they didn't know coupling before nikah is forbidden in Islam before admitting into IIUM.

After they admit into IIUM, they are exposed with the idea that coupling before nikah is forbidden and generally, they understand and know why it's forbidden. Then, they will replace coupling idea with the better idea that is allowed in Islam. Yess, it's a marriage or specifically early marriage.

Basically, they understand that early marriage provides many advantanges in spiritual, social, religious, academically aspects etc. In Islam, there are many hadith (Prophet's sayings) that highlight its advantage and it's recommended in Islam to get married. I don't want to point all those advantages out because I assume many of us know or heard about it. Maybe you can refer in ILuvIslam.com if you don't know.Don't get wrong idea, I fully support this early marriage idea.

Have you ever heard or meet the early young married couple have many problems after getting married for example, their academic performance is getting worse, social and financial problems or worst case scenario, they get divorced?

The main point is before getting married, some of them put the marriage solely as MAIN OBJECTIVE OF THEIR LIFE! I mean as an ABSOLUTE OBJECTIVE! Maybe, many of us didn't realize this because we are consumed with early marriage advantages plus the natural desire to have someone special to live together. (Both of these is not the bad thing, dont get me wrong). Subconciously, they put this as ABSOLUTE objective of their life. Yet, for me, this idea is completely WRONG. The ABSOLUTE OBJECTIVE in Islam is for HEREAFTER. For Allah s.w t.

Marriage is just one of the complementary thing to strengthen our effort and way to achieve true absolute objective.

The person that puts marriage as an absolute objective is analogically like a sprinter that MUST run 400 metres on track to get to the FINISH LINE but he puts the target at 100 metres only. He will run as fast as he can until 100 metres. Then, after 100 metres, he will burn out and assume he already win and race is end. Maybe he will stop and take a nap at 100 metres line while other sprinters run untill the true finish line.The truth is, he must make it to Finish Line that's 300 metres away to go. He's a loser. Geddit?

I guess the main point is I want to make sure you need to know why you want to do something. Even, you want to get married after graduating or while working, without realizing the true objective in marriage or prioritize what is more important, you will face many problems too.

I just want to point this out to make it clear my friend, MARRIAGE is a part of process in our life not true objective! That's all!

p/s: Tomorrow is Minitest. Please pray for me :))  

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tihah said...

the drawing part is interesting. :)

but, yeah, agree with u friend.marriage is totally shouldn't be our ultimate goal in life..

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